Delighted In

May 25, 2020


“He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”  Zeph. 3:17 The majority of my clients are fellow Christians who sought out a Christian therapist because their faith is an important part of their lives.  Between my role as a therapist […]

Really, What is it About That?

May 19, 2020


Your mate does some things that really bug you, huh?  When (s)he does that thing they do, it really makes you mad.  Can I invite you to reflect on what it is about that thing that upsets you so much?  If you answered, “It’s just rude?,”  let’s try to dig a little deeper.  The question […]

Attachment Injuries Revisited

May 11, 2020


My wife and I were recently listening to an audiobook that was a biography of Paul Simon.  Since I can’t help but see relationships from a therapist’s viewpoint, I couldn’t help but reflect on the ongoing rift in the relationship between Paul and Art Garfunkel.  Before I go down that path, let me define my […]

Spike in Divorce or Baby Boom

May 4, 2020


What will be the relationship impact of us all sheltering at home?  I read an article[1] that reported a spike in divorce filings in China that was attributed to couples spending too much time at home together due to COVID.  On a separate note, my wife had speculated a baby boom[2] this winter resulting from […]

A Therapist Looks at Hallmark

April 27, 2020


My wife is a big fan of Hallmark movies.  I like them well enough as long as the leads are likeable enough and behave in ways that make sense.  The plot lines are similar enough you could write them by doing mad-libs to fill in the few blanks that change from one film to the […]


April 20, 2020


I know, you’re thinking Old McDonald.  I wanted to talk about Introverts (I) and Extroverts (E) particularly as it applies to our current sheltering at home situation. All of us are somewhere on a continuum between always choosing to be with people or always choosing to be alone.  This is mostly about where you get […]

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Danger and Opportunity

April 13, 2020


Twenty four years ago, I did a brief stint working for a bank[1] in Northern California.  It was the only time I have ever lived outside of Southern California.  It was also the most oppressive corporate culture I have ever experienced.  I reported directly to the president of the bank who would tell you himself […]