Presumption of Innocence

March 9, 2018


When accused of a crime in America, we have the presumption of innocence.  Essentially, we do not have to prove that we are innocent of whatever we are accused.  The assumption is that we are innocent until proven otherwise. A few decades back, I was in traffic school as a result of a speeding ticket.[1]  […]

Posted in: Marriage, Relationships

That’s The Gig, Man

February 7, 2018


Perhaps you were caught up in the moment and did not realize what you were committing to.  I was not at your wedding, but based upon the service of marriage I found in the hymnal, it probably went something like this.  The pastor turned to you and said, “Scott will you have Carol to be […]

Posted in: Love, Marriage

Spiritual Leadership

January 2, 2018


A common complaint I hear from Christian wives is that their husbands are not the “spiritual leader” of the family.  My experience is that the men at whom the complaint is leveled vary a great deal in where they are at in their spiritual journey.  Some are indeed nominal Christians.  Others regularly attend church, go […]

Wrapping Up the Year

December 20, 2017


“I guess you wonder where I’ve been. I search to find the love within.”  Bobby Caldwell “You can bend my ear.  We can talk all day.  Just make sure I’m around when you finally have something to say.”  Toad the Wet Sprocket “You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.”  Ruth […]

Following Your Dreams

September 16, 2017


Love is about all the changes you make and not just three small words.  Frank Turner It’s all worth nothing alone.  Graham Parker My wife is a big fan of Hallmark movies.  I can enjoy them well enough with a few provisos.  First, it helps if the acting is at least decent.  I need to […]

Rose Tint

August 8, 2017


Rose tints my world and keeps me safe from the trouble and pain.[1]  Columbia Something’s lost and something’s gained in living every day.  Joni Mitchell I played in a number of bands.  In the longest running of those bands, I was the third best lead vocalist.  I sang about 60% of the lead vocals.  The […]

Posted in: Agency, Grief, Resilience

Is “You ping my arousal template,” a romantic thing to hear from a drunken man?

June 21, 2017


Ladies, picture this.  You go for a drink in the hotel bar.  At one table there is a group of men downing rounds of shots.  A moderately out of shape[1] (and somehow familiar) redhead starts checking you out.  He separates from the group and comes over to you.  He puts a Van Morrison song on […]

Posted in: Relationships, Sex