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Four Responses

April 8, 2019


A client shared with me about their family of origin’s hopes of having a meeting with their father to try to reconcile from the siblings’ experience of childhood abuse.  In helping my client set expectations, I offered that there were four possible tacks that dad could take.  I think these are fairly universal when trying […]

Lenten Devotion

March 11, 2019


Last Wednesday was Ash Wednesday, marking the start of the season of Lent.  Lent is the 46 days[1] leading up to Jesus’ passion, death and resurrection.  This is a time for many Christians to focus on spiritual disciplines to draw closer to Jesus.  This often involves fasting from something.  Sometimes instead of fasting from something, […]

A Couple’s Therapy Primer

February 2, 2019


We stand on the shoulders of giants (as Sir Isaac Newton observed).  I was going to start this post with John Saxe’s “The Blind Men and The Elephant,”[1] but that felt less than honoring to the great therapists and theorists who have contributed to marital therapy.  Having said that, I find that each of the […]

Catching Up

September 21, 2018


I guess you wonder where I’ve been.  I search to find the love within.  Bobby Caldwell You can bend my ear.  We can talk all day.  But just make sure I’m around when you finally have something to say.  Toad the Wet Sprocket The wonder of it all, Baby.  Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Paul McCartney After […]

Resolution Time?

January 1, 2015


“The tension is here between who you are and who you could be, between how it is and how it should be.”  Jon Foreman (Dare You To Move) “And it gets harder as you get older.” Stephen Stills (See the Changes) “One day you’ll wake up in the present day, a million generations removed from […]