Browsing All Posts filed under »Empathy«

Vantage Point

January 23, 2015


A few years back, the film Vantage Point told the story of an attempted assassination from the view point of different characters.  As the story unfolds, the viewer sees the same events multiple times, but from different views.  Each character’s perspective provides a different understanding of the events until the viewer gets the full picture […]

You need to care deeply about what is happening for her and not so much about what she thinks of you.

November 13, 2014


Answer: Everybody’s Got Something to Hide Except For Me and My Monkey Question: What is the longest Beatles song title? If you’re ever on Jeopardy and that comes up, now you know.  This is my longest blog post title. If you have been reading my blog or my bio, you may already know that a […]

Don’t “Just Say, ‘No’”

June 11, 2014


Grant that I may not so much seek To be consoled as to console; To be understood as to understand; To be loved as to love. Prayer of St. Francis   So your partner says some things that just make no sense to you.  You can’t even believe that he/she believes what he/she is saying.  […]

Empathy: More Than a Technique

April 17, 2014


“Whenever he gets in a fix, he reaches into his bag of tricks.” Felix the Cat Theme[1] “You don’t know what it’s like to be me.”  Tom Petty I spend a reasonable amount of this blog and my professional life teaching men how to demonstrate empathy to their wives.  A couple of times recently, men […]

About You, Not About You

April 14, 2014


One of the difficulties partners often seemed to encounter in couple relationships is being able to differentiate what is about you from what is not about you.  This difficulty is further complicated by the fact that most people would not recognize that this is an issue.  Let me explain what I mean by this.  When […]

The Power of Empathy video

December 17, 2013


Great stuff here from Brene Brown.  No further explanation needed.  Enjoy.

St. Francis on Marriage

July 24, 2013


Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love.  St. Francis of Assisi   Much of what you get from me every week is what I was thinking about after a session with clients.  This is no exception.  […]

Overcoming Shame

May 10, 2013


This post is based upon a talk I am presenting this weekend to a group of leaders of Christian sexual addiction recovery support groups.  As such, my Christian view is particularly on display in this one.  My hope is that my readers who are of other faiths or no faith will still be able to […]

Men and Emotions (Part 2)

April 25, 2013


I labeled the last post “Part 1” as I had more to offer on the subject but not the time to complete everything I wanted to say on the topic.[1]  It is interesting to me which posts draw the most comments and likes and from whom the comments originate.  The last post was intended to […]

Men and Emotions (Part 1)

April 18, 2013


Back around the turn of the century (it sounds like a long time ago when you say it like that), there was an email circulating of “The Man Rules.”  Basically, it poked fun at the differences between how men and women view things.  One item on the list talked about how men understood color.  Men […]