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The Good Place – Part 3 – Counseling

December 11, 2019


Same episode.  Same conversation.  Same spoiler alert.  If you missed the backstory, here is part 1.   Michael: But mostly you wanted answers.  The soul mate one, in particular.  So, I used it to torture you, which, again, sorry.  If soul mates do exist, they’re not found.  They’re made.  People meet, they get a […]

Four Responses

April 8, 2019


A client shared with me about their family of origin’s hopes of having a meeting with their father to try to reconcile from the siblings’ experience of childhood abuse.  In helping my client set expectations, I offered that there were four possible tacks that dad could take.  I think these are fairly universal when trying […]

A Therapist Looks At “Crazy Rich Asians”

January 25, 2019


Since I neglected my blog so badly last year, I have fallen behind in applying a therapist’s view to the pop culture.  Let’s start the year playing some catch-up. As I thought about this post, I had several alternate working titles.  Among these were, “Rachel could do better,” “Run Away, Rachel!,” and “Don’t Marry a […]

When You Love Someone

January 23, 2017


Among the dangers of writing on topics about which one is passionate is that it is easy to cross the line into a rant.  This one may be as close as I get to doing that. I was driving home from the gym with American Top 40 on the radio playing “When You Love Someone” […]

Hallmark Movies

January 3, 2017


Happy New Year to you.  I hope that the year is off to a good start for you and that your resolutions are intact.  Liturgically, we are still in the season of Christmas for a few more days. Among the many rituals surrounding Christmas, my wife is quite fond of watching Hallmark Channel Christmas movies.  […]

James Bay Meet Murray Bowen

August 8, 2016


“Why don’t you be you and I’ll be me?” James Bay, Let It Go Marriage and family therapy is a profession that has only been around for about 50 years.  Prior to that, mental health practitioners solely focused on individual dysfunction.  Most of the early theorists for marriage and family therapy were psychoanalysts who had […]

Remembering Ann

May 3, 2016


I usually do not use this blog to process my own stuff, but this post is something of an exception.  I hope my readers will find it helpful. Courage My family suffered a tragic loss last week with the death of my sister Ann from cancer.  It had been seven months since her diagnosis, but […]

A Royal Christmas or Differentiating From Momma

December 30, 2015


This time of year, we see a lot of Hallmark movies at our house.  Most tend to be very similar and very predictable.  This is not really a problem for me as long as the leads are likeable enough and behave in some fashion that seems to make sense (even if the scenarios are somewhat […]

Puer Aeternus

September 15, 2015


When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Cor. 13:11 Well I’ve been saving for a custom van, And I’ve been playing in a cover band. And my baby […]

War Room

September 10, 2015


As a public service, let me offer this money saving tip.  Go see “War Room,” a film that is currently in theatrical release.  This is a Christian film about marriage and family (a subject near and dear to my heart).  I will not spoil it for you by giving you much more.  You can find […]