“You keep carrying that anger, it will eat you up inside.” Don Henley “Resentment is like drinking rat poison yourself and waiting for the rat to die.” John Ortberg “This one’s for the girls who think I’ve done wrong, could you really hold a grudge that long?” Todd Rundgren A local radio station was having […]
June 24, 2019
You keep carrying that anger, it will eat you up inside. Don Henley, The Heart of the Matter Over the last 20 years, the term, boundaries, has worked its way into the vernacular. The credit is in no small part to Cloud and Townsend’s series of books. At the most basic level, the concept is […]
November 3, 2016
At our church, we are in the process of looking for a new senior pastor. Actually, we have been in the process for a year since our last pastor retired and moved closer to his children and grandchildren. Fortunately, we still have a strong group of pastors and a world renown consultant as a transition […]
July 17, 2016
Often in therapy, one partner will question whether the other still loves him or her. The frequent response is, “You should know that I still love you because I’m still here.” As a therapist, I read a lot into the fact that you are both sitting here. Charming as I am, I assume that most […]
July 3, 2014
If you have read much of my blog, you know that one of my areas of specialization is treating sexual addiction. Whether addiction is involved or not, if there has been sexual infidelity or other betrayals of trust in the relationship, the partner is often traumatized. As with other types of trauma, traumatic reaction to […]
May 16, 2014
Obliviousness, is that a word? If not, I am claiming it. Here’s my working definition: the state of being unaware of what is happening around one’s self or a lack of awareness of one’s impact on others. We know what it looks like, right? 1) You are in the supermarket and someone has their cart […]
March 4, 2020
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