Browsing All Posts filed under »Grief«

Pete The Cat Meets the Little Drummer Boy

December 23, 2018


Christmas is the day after tomorrow.  Today I find myself in the enviable if somewhat unusual position of having nothing on my plate for which the failure to accomplish it would have a bad result.  (Thank you, Lord, for an actual sabbath rest[1]).  I plan to watch a football game, but thought I should also […]

Rose Tint

August 8, 2017


Rose tints my world and keeps me safe from the trouble and pain.[1]  Columbia Something’s lost and something’s gained in living every day.  Joni Mitchell I played in a number of bands.  In the longest running of those bands, I was the third best lead vocalist.  I sang about 60% of the lead vocals.  The […]

Remembering Ann

May 3, 2016


I usually do not use this blog to process my own stuff, but this post is something of an exception.  I hope my readers will find it helpful. Courage My family suffered a tragic loss last week with the death of my sister Ann from cancer.  It had been seven months since her diagnosis, but […]

A Therapist Looks at Star Wars: The Force Awakens – Part 1

December 20, 2015


SPOILER ALERT!  If you have not seen the film and want to not have knowledge of plot revelations beforehand, do not read this post until after you have seen the film. While you are deciding whether or not to read this, I will tell you some stories.  If you do the math, you can figure […]

Frog in the Pot

November 20, 2014


The Frog “Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done and what I had toiled to achieve, everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind, nothing was gained under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 2: 11 “I flourished in my humble trade.  My reputation grew.  The work devoured my waking hours, but when my time […]

Life, Meaning, Legacy, Exit, Thanks (Regrets or Lack Thereof)

July 11, 2014


My mother-in-law died last week.  Though her heart condition was known, her death was sudden and unexpected as she had not been ill and had been enjoying life right up to her final moments.  She was 86, but did not seem that old as her demeanor and way of interacting with life was about the […]

Three Things (Part 1)

December 9, 2012


I previously served as a counselor at San Diego Hospice.  Working with people at the end of their lives and working with grieving partners and families has a way of putting life in perspective.  I found a few consistent themes that came up and I came up with three ideas that can be difficult to […]

Grief, Loss, and Trauma

May 12, 2012


Grief can sometimes be complicated by traumatic aspects of the death.  The acronym NASH offers a general outline of how the cause or circumstances of the death add traumatic factors which make working through the tasks of mourning (see last post) more difficult.  In ascending order of propensity to induce trauma are deaths by 1) […]

Grief and Loss: The Tasks of Mourning

May 5, 2012


In every life, there will be times in which one must cope with grief and loss.  Some recent conversations I have had with those who are grieving seemed to warrant a detour from the topic of marital relationships for a discussion of grief and mourning.  There is a sense in which all of our work […]