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Really, What is it About That?

May 19, 2020


Your mate does some things that really bug you, huh?  When (s)he does that thing they do, it really makes you mad.  Can I invite you to reflect on what it is about that thing that upsets you so much?  If you answered, “It’s just rude?,”  let’s try to dig a little deeper.  The question […]

A Therapist Looks at Hallmark

April 27, 2020


My wife is a big fan of Hallmark movies.  I like them well enough as long as the leads are likeable enough and behave in ways that make sense.  The plot lines are similar enough you could write them by doing mad-libs to fill in the few blanks that change from one film to the […]


April 20, 2020


I know, you’re thinking Old McDonald.  I wanted to talk about Introverts (I) and Extroverts (E) particularly as it applies to our current sheltering at home situation. All of us are somewhere on a continuum between always choosing to be with people or always choosing to be alone.  This is mostly about where you get […]

The Case for Irrelevancy and the Existential Crisis

March 10, 2020


“No, I am not Prince Hamlet, nor was meant to be.” T.S. Eliot, The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock “A man needs a home and a child and a wife to always be there, always.”  Don Henley, Oh Lilah “In a couple of years they have built a home sweet home.  With a couple […]

Life Changing Advice

February 23, 2020


“Years ago, my mother used to say to me — she’d say, ‘In this world, Elwood, you must be –‘ She always called me Elwood.  ‘In this world, Elwood, you must be oh, so smart or oh, so pleasant.’ Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. And you may quote me.”  Elwood P. […]

Carol’s Heart – Part 2

December 25, 2019


This blog is supposed to be a weekly (almost) dose of relationship wisdom in 500-700 words that you can use to have a better marriage rather than being my personal journal.  But a lot has happened in the last three days so I feel I should give an update to all of you who have […]

Carol’s Heart

December 22, 2019


First, for any close friends who are just now learning that the title of this post is literal and not metaphorical, I hope you will understand that we have been otherwise occupied.  Consequently, if you are not in the family or on the prayer chain, this may be news to you.  Please don’t take any […]

The Good Place – Part 3 – Counseling

December 11, 2019


Same episode.  Same conversation.  Same spoiler alert.  If you missed the backstory, here is part 1.   Michael: But mostly you wanted answers.  The soul mate one, in particular.  So, I used it to torture you, which, again, sorry.  If soul mates do exist, they’re not found.  They’re made.  People meet, they get a […]

The Good Place – Part 1 – Soulmates

November 27, 2019


Spoiler Alert: I am going to talk about Season 4, Episode 9 of The Good Place which aired last week.  To give some context, I also need to discuss what has come before.  If you are one who does not want to know anything about a show before you see it and think you might […]

A Working Theory and Its Implications

May 13, 2019


This theory is a work in process.  I welcome feedback or even just some additional data points. My daughter is getting married in a few weeks.  After she got engaged, she was talking with delight to her mother (i.e. my wife) about how much her fiancé loves her.  My wife shared about how great it […]