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College of Marriage Online

July 20, 2020


College of Marriage is now available online at College of Marriage is a 15 week marriage enrichment curriculum written and presented by my colleague, Carolyn Klusmeier and myself.  The lecture portion of the classes is now available on video.  You can also download the Powerpoints and the exercises.  The classes were 90 minutes, but […]

Puer Aeternus

September 15, 2015


When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 1 Cor. 13:11 Well I’ve been saving for a custom van, And I’ve been playing in a cover band. And my baby […]

Ripple Effect

August 4, 2015


Let’s see if we can create an existential crisis and solve it in less than 1000 words.  There are about 7 billion people living on this planet at present.  The vast majority of us are not known at all beyond the few hundred lives with whom we have contact.  Even within that circle of influence, […]

Transfer of Power

November 7, 2014


I am writing this on Election Day.  This has been a particularly brutal election season with all of the negative campaigning, particularly in California’s 52nd congressional district where I live.[1]  My best guess is that we are getting more than 5 political phone calls per day.  I vote by permanent absentee ballot, so I voted […]

What’s Your Epitaph?

February 6, 2014


“The most important thing a father can do for his children is love their mother.”  Theodore Hesburgh “We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.”  Winston Churchill “It’s only the giving that makes you what you are.”  Ian Anderson “What do you want on your tombstone?” Tombstone […]

Attachment and Intimacy

October 31, 2013


To provide some context, this post is adapted from a recent talk I gave to a group of leaders of Christian sexual addiction recovery support groups.  My portion (the more academic section) was followed by my colleagues, Andrew Last speaking on “Creating a Culture of Connection” in the support group and Treina Nash speaking on […]

Ending the Legacy (Part 2)

October 19, 2013


The only statistics I could find that might give a view to the percentage of the adult population that has experienced childhood sexual abuse indicated that “one in three girls and one in six boys are sexually abused before the age of 18” (Voicing Abuse Project, 2013).  I am confident that these numbers are grossly […]

Ending the Legacy (Part 1)

October 12, 2013


One of the things I appreciate about many of my clients is their commitment to ensure that their children have it better than they did.  In this context, we are not talking about material wealth, but physical and emotional safety.  Couples coping with marital distress may have come from healthy families.  The negative cycle is […]

Rock & Roll, Kung Fu, & the Daddy Wound

January 17, 2013


Last year, The New Yorker magazine published a 20 page article on Bruce Springsteen & the E Street Band.  With an article of that length, they were able to cover history, origins, and current state of Bruce and the band members.  At the end of a discussion of Bruce’s family of origin, Bruce asserted that […]