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College of Marriage Online

July 20, 2020


College of Marriage is now available online at College of Marriage is a 15 week marriage enrichment curriculum written and presented by my colleague, Carolyn Klusmeier and myself.  The lecture portion of the classes is now available on video.  You can also download the Powerpoints and the exercises.  The classes were 90 minutes, but […]


November 21, 2019


Here’s the script from the college of marriage session on sex.  This is a fairly candid discussion.  Consider it PG-13. Welcome to the college of marriage session 8.  In this session we are going to talk about sex. We need to have a candid conversation about sex.  This is a topic that I talk about […]

Is “You ping my arousal template,” a romantic thing to hear from a drunken man?

June 21, 2017


Ladies, picture this.  You go for a drink in the hotel bar.  At one table there is a group of men downing rounds of shots.  A moderately out of shape[1] (and somehow familiar) redhead starts checking you out.  He separates from the group and comes over to you.  He puts a Van Morrison song on […]

A Tale of Two Marketing Strategies

January 11, 2017


Since DVR’s came into common usage, I rarely see commercials anymore.  If I do, it is either 1) in the gym (no audio), 2) during a football game (sadly watching the Chargers fall apart), or 3) the first commercial in the break is interesting enough to grab my attention before I can get to the […]

Eroticized Rage’s Greatest Hits

August 30, 2016


I was listening to American Top 40 a couple of weeks ago, and Ryan Seacrest was announcing that Elle King’s “Ex’s and Oh’s” had been in the top 40 for 55 weeks.  That’s over a year that the song has been a hit.  With the overwhelming success of the song, it seems there is a […]

Don’t Freak Out / Don’t Take it Personally

June 4, 2016


This post is a marital public service announcement of the sort you don’t see very often.  To make my point, I need to be comparatively explicit.  Consider this a warning of a PG-13 rating. In my practice, I frequently see middle aged couples who have encountered difficulties with their sex life.  Often this takes the […]

Impact of Pornography on the Brain

November 1, 2015


This video report on the impact of porn use is about 23 minutes long, so it will take more time than reading a typical blog post.  It doesn’t require much further comment from me but to say that it is good information.  No moralizing[1], just science.  Porn use is really damaging.   [1] Though […]

Ashley Madison Take 2

August 29, 2015


The purchase of the island of Manhattan.  The commonly understood history is that in 1626 Dutch colonists purchased the island of Manhattan from the Native Americans for trade goods valued at about 60 Dutch guilders.[1]  That amount would have purchased about 1 ½ pounds of silver at the time.  Though the natives’ understanding of the […]

How to Train Your Husband

June 11, 2015


Now that I have your interest, let me start off by saying that you can’t train him, at least not directly.  There is an old cliché that says that “a woman marries a man expecting him to change and he doesn’t; a man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.”  Old […]

Contaminating the Fantasy (Part 1 – Out and About)

April 16, 2015


The wife of a pastor friend of mine once remarked that if God had not cranked up the sex drive on men that they would have been completely undomesticatable (if that is a word).  It is certainly true that our gender is very visually stimulated.  Jesus warned against even looking at a woman with lust […]