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Supernormal Stimuli

April 2, 2015


“Ain’t nothing like the real thing” Ashford and Simpson, 1968 “Even better than the real thing” U2, 1991 When I was in undergrad[1], one of my psychology textbooks had a picture of a small bird trying to sit on a very large egg.  The photo related to the work of the late Niko Tinbergen and […]

The Grammys

March 5, 2015


Okay.  I am a few weeks late in putting this one out.  If you read my last post, you know that I was away on an anniversary trip with my wife.  I was a complete slacker on that trip (it was wonderful), and then paid for it the next week by playing catch-up[1]. So let’s […]

Don’t Take It Personally

February 12, 2015


Q: What is the most powerful (significant, important) sex organ? A: The brain “It’s not you; it’s me.”  Classic cliché break-up line As I observed in a previous post, Cialis does make beautiful commercials.  This is particularly so if you see them without the audio as I typically do when in the gym.  Middle aged […]


December 18, 2014


If you have read much of my writing or read my bio, you know that I am a certified sexual addiction therapist and a large portion of my practice involves treating sexual addiction. Many of my clients are men who have been stuck in compulsively viewing of pornography and masturbation.  Usually some resultant crisis in […]

Facets of Marriage (Part 2b): Lovers

March 13, 2014


“And as a lover knows his beloved’s heart, all the shapes and curves of her even in the dark,  you know me.” Audrey Assad   An issue requiring some delicacy which sometimes surfaces in therapy is the issue of our bodies.  Often one partner protests (and is offended by) the other partner’s weight gain.  There […]

Facets of Marriage (Part 2a): Lovers

March 6, 2014


Drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer, may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5: 18-19 Do not deprive each other.  1 Cor. 7:5 […]

Gorillas? Really?

January 9, 2014


Some say that no one writes tender romantic love songs anymore.  I have to disagree.  As a case in point take the poignant lyric to Bruno Mars’ recent hit “Gorilla.”  What could be more romantic than the promise of “you and me, baby, making love[1] like gorillas” coming from a man with “a body full […]

See Alice

August 22, 2013


[1]Since the invention of the DVR, the only place I actually see TV commercials is when I am on the elliptical in the gym.  (At home I just fast forward through them.)  Consequently, there are commercials I have seen dozens of times and never heard the audio.  It is sometimes interesting to note what moves […]

Barbie and Ken

May 2, 2013


When the mirror tells us we’re older, I will hold you.  I will be here to watch you grow in beauty and tell you all the things you are to me.  Steven Curtis Chapman “Oh, is your self-worth tied to your body mass?”  Sheldon Cooper Barbie (Barbara Millicent Roberts) celebrated her 54th birthday on March […]

Strawberry Bubblegum, the Hijacked Brain, and the Dimensions of Courtship

April 11, 2013


Those of you who know me would know and those who have been reading my stuff might surmise that I have a lifelong love of pop and rock music.  Much as I love a good song with an interesting lyric, it is important not to confuse entertainers with sages.  Just because someone sang a lyric […]