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EURSR (The Essence of Empathy and Intimacy)

April 13, 2018


Many of my colleagues are good at coming up with clever acronyms (that spell out words) to help clients remember key coping strategies.  I might have to really think about it if I want to figure out how to make this spell something. This one is Engage, Understand, Reflect, Share, Repeat.  It involves both the […]

Trusting Iris

March 19, 2015


I got to visit France for the first time last year.  My wife and I traveled with my sister and my brother-in-law.  I like traveling with them.  Part of that, of course, is that we all get along well.  The other part is that my brother-in-law loves to plan the trips (where we will go, […]

Sexual Addiction: Intimacy Disorder

July 22, 2014


Behavior Disorder Brain Disorder Sexual addiction is a(n) Intimacy Disorder Profound Boundary Failure A Family of Origin Disorder Relationship Disorder Courtship Disorder Trauma Response Way of Managing Shame Dysfunctional Emotional Regulation Strategy In male culture, a common fixture is the put-down. This can be used as a show of camaraderie, can indicate acceptance into a […]

Do You Really Want Life to Be Fair?

May 8, 2014


Inigo:  Who are you? Westley:  No one of consequence. Inigo: I must know. Westley: Get used to disappointment.   “I can’t complain, but sometimes I still do.”  Joe Walsh   “I made lemonade with the lemons You sent me.”  Bob Halligan, Jr.   “Upon us all, a little rain must fall.”  Robert Plant/Jimmy Page   […]

Infidelity Redefined

January 24, 2014


This week I am in Washington for the final training module for CSAT (certified sexual addiction therapist) certification.  On the first day of this module, Rob Weiss presented on sexual addiction and technology, and how assessment and treatment is impacted by evolving technology and media.  This post is not about that, but about a comment […]

The Remodel

January 2, 2014


Prologue I wrote this post back in October.  I chickened out on posting it at the time.  It felt a little too vulnerable to be so candid about my own experience.  On top of that it sounded a little too whiny, and like most people, I prefer to be the hero in my own stories.  […]