Your mate does some things that really bug you, huh? When (s)he does that thing they do, it really makes you mad. Can I invite you to reflect on what it is about that thing that upsets you so much? If you answered, “It’s just rude?,” let’s try to dig a little deeper. The question […]
May 4, 2020
What will be the relationship impact of us all sheltering at home? I read an article[1] that reported a spike in divorce filings in China that was attributed to couples spending too much time at home together due to COVID. On a separate note, my wife had speculated a baby boom[2] this winter resulting from […]
April 13, 2018
Many of my colleagues are good at coming up with clever acronyms (that spell out words) to help clients remember key coping strategies. I might have to really think about it if I want to figure out how to make this spell something. This one is Engage, Understand, Reflect, Share, Repeat. It involves both the […]
February 22, 2017
“The church is not built on the people that come and go. It’s built on the people who stay. And we all know the secret: We all could have left a thousand times because we’ve all let each other down. Because we’re all imperfect beings and that’s the beauty of community.” Erwin McManus This past […]
January 11, 2017
Since DVR’s came into common usage, I rarely see commercials anymore. If I do, it is either 1) in the gym (no audio), 2) during a football game (sadly watching the Chargers fall apart), or 3) the first commercial in the break is interesting enough to grab my attention before I can get to the […]
November 24, 2016
On Sunday, we had a guest preacher at our church. She is not only a pastor, but also a clinical psychologist and a seminary professor. The sermon, titled “The Lord Has Done Great Things” was an encouraging message about how in our sorrows and losses are the seeds of future joy. The scriptural basis was […]
June 4, 2016
This post is a marital public service announcement of the sort you don’t see very often. To make my point, I need to be comparatively explicit. Consider this a warning of a PG-13 rating. In my practice, I frequently see middle aged couples who have encountered difficulties with their sex life. Often this takes the […]
February 12, 2015
Q: What is the most powerful (significant, important) sex organ? A: The brain “It’s not you; it’s me.” Classic cliché break-up line As I observed in a previous post, Cialis does make beautiful commercials. This is particularly so if you see them without the audio as I typically do when in the gym. Middle aged […]
December 18, 2014
If you have read much of my writing or read my bio, you know that I am a certified sexual addiction therapist and a large portion of my practice involves treating sexual addiction. Many of my clients are men who have been stuck in compulsively viewing of pornography and masturbation. Usually some resultant crisis in […]
May 19, 2020
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