Humorous references are a lot less amusing if you have to explain them. I originally conceived this post around the time of my 59th. I thought the reference to “A Pirate Looks at 40” by Jimmy Buffett was pretty obvious. I figured every boomer on the planet knew that song. I asked a couple of […]
June 29, 2020
This post came from working with some couples who are recovering from some significant violations in the relationship. There are occasionally couples who are able to get to a place of forgiveness and functionality, but don’t have the same romantic feelings for their partner that they did before. This can also happen even if there […]
June 22, 2020
How are you doing spiritually? I don’t mean have you read your Bible and prayed today. Those are important spiritual disciplines, but they aren’t ends in themselves. This isn’t a question about how you are doing at pursuing holiness, though that is also a great spiritual pursuit. What I want to know is, “How are […]
June 16, 2020
You’re an adult. You can do what you want. You don’t need permission. Many partners bristle when they feel that they have to get permission from their mate to do things they want to do. I wish we had a better word than permission. It seems to imply a parent-child sort of relationship. I don’t […]
June 9, 2020
I was listening to a sermon over the weekend about complaining to God. Essentially, the pastor was comparing and contrasting David’s pouring out his complaint in Psalm 142 with the complaining of the Israelites during the exodus. His point was that there is not a problem with complaining to God and, in fact, that can […]
June 1, 2020
Do you have some hot button topics that are sure to result in a fight? How about some things that really bother you but you don’t want to say anything because you fear it will just blow up? You find yourself sucking it up because you don’t like confrontation? I don’t like conflict or confrontation […]
May 19, 2020
Your mate does some things that really bug you, huh? When (s)he does that thing they do, it really makes you mad. Can I invite you to reflect on what it is about that thing that upsets you so much? If you answered, “It’s just rude?,” let’s try to dig a little deeper. The question […]
May 4, 2020
What will be the relationship impact of us all sheltering at home? I read an article[1] that reported a spike in divorce filings in China that was attributed to couples spending too much time at home together due to COVID. On a separate note, my wife had speculated a baby boom[2] this winter resulting from […]
July 5, 2020
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