Browsing All posts tagged under »sex«

College of Marriage Online

July 20, 2020


College of Marriage is now available online at College of Marriage is a 15 week marriage enrichment curriculum written and presented by my colleague, Carolyn Klusmeier and myself.  The lecture portion of the classes is now available on video.  You can also download the Powerpoints and the exercises.  The classes were 90 minutes, but […]


November 21, 2019


Here’s the script from the college of marriage session on sex.  This is a fairly candid discussion.  Consider it PG-13. Welcome to the college of marriage session 8.  In this session we are going to talk about sex. We need to have a candid conversation about sex.  This is a topic that I talk about […]

A Tale of Two Marketing Strategies

January 11, 2017


Since DVR’s came into common usage, I rarely see commercials anymore.  If I do, it is either 1) in the gym (no audio), 2) during a football game (sadly watching the Chargers fall apart), or 3) the first commercial in the break is interesting enough to grab my attention before I can get to the […]

Don’t Freak Out / Don’t Take it Personally

June 4, 2016


This post is a marital public service announcement of the sort you don’t see very often.  To make my point, I need to be comparatively explicit.  Consider this a warning of a PG-13 rating. In my practice, I frequently see middle aged couples who have encountered difficulties with their sex life.  Often this takes the […]

Ashley Madison Take 2

August 29, 2015


The purchase of the island of Manhattan.  The commonly understood history is that in 1626 Dutch colonists purchased the island of Manhattan from the Native Americans for trade goods valued at about 60 Dutch guilders.[1]  That amount would have purchased about 1 ½ pounds of silver at the time.  Though the natives’ understanding of the […]

The Grammys

March 5, 2015


Okay.  I am a few weeks late in putting this one out.  If you read my last post, you know that I was away on an anniversary trip with my wife.  I was a complete slacker on that trip (it was wonderful), and then paid for it the next week by playing catch-up[1]. So let’s […]

Don’t Take It Personally

February 12, 2015


Q: What is the most powerful (significant, important) sex organ? A: The brain “It’s not you; it’s me.”  Classic cliché break-up line As I observed in a previous post, Cialis does make beautiful commercials.  This is particularly so if you see them without the audio as I typically do when in the gym.  Middle aged […]

Facets of Marriage (Part 2b): Lovers

March 13, 2014


“And as a lover knows his beloved’s heart, all the shapes and curves of her even in the dark,  you know me.” Audrey Assad   An issue requiring some delicacy which sometimes surfaces in therapy is the issue of our bodies.  Often one partner protests (and is offended by) the other partner’s weight gain.  There […]

Facets of Marriage (Part 2a): Lovers

March 6, 2014


Drink your fill of love. Song of Songs 5:1 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer, may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5: 18-19 Do not deprive each other.  1 Cor. 7:5 […]

See Alice

August 22, 2013


[1]Since the invention of the DVR, the only place I actually see TV commercials is when I am on the elliptical in the gym.  (At home I just fast forward through them.)  Consequently, there are commercials I have seen dozens of times and never heard the audio.  It is sometimes interesting to note what moves […]