Browsing All posts tagged under »sexual addiction«


June 15, 2017


In a 1970 Monty Python sketch, a book publisher has published a Hungarian-English phrase book for Hungarian tourists visiting Britain.  The publisher has intentionally mistranslated the phrases to wreak havoc.  By way of example, the Hungarian phrase for “Can you direct me to the railway station?” was translated as “Please fondle my buttocks.”  After the […]

The Mainstream Figures Out That Porn is Bad for You

March 22, 2016


It is encouraging that noting the dangers and the addictive nature of porn use has become increasingly mainstream. GQ magazine published an article on “10 Reasons Why You Should Quit Watching Porn.” They aren’t the same top 10 reasons I would give you, but, hey, these are still good reasons.  In short, porn greatly […]

Expanding Your Thinking About Boundaries

September 30, 2015


A large part of my practice is treating sexual addiction.  No matter what the addiction, an important part of recovery is learning to live with and embrace boundaries.  When active in their addiction, addicts hate boundaries.  Boundaries are your jailer.  They keep you from doing what you most want to do.  A significant milestone in […]

Ashley Madison Hack Help (Take 1)

August 25, 2015


So your information got hacked from your Ashley Madison account, huh?  And now your life is in crisis.  My grad school advisor’s native language was Chinese.  He shared with me that the Chinese character for crisis contains the characters for danger and opportunity.  The danger seems obvious, so let’s see where there might be some […]

Ripple Effect

August 4, 2015


Let’s see if we can create an existential crisis and solve it in less than 1000 words.  There are about 7 billion people living on this planet at present.  The vast majority of us are not known at all beyond the few hundred lives with whom we have contact.  Even within that circle of influence, […]


December 18, 2014


If you have read much of my writing or read my bio, you know that I am a certified sexual addiction therapist and a large portion of my practice involves treating sexual addiction. Many of my clients are men who have been stuck in compulsively viewing of pornography and masturbation.  Usually some resultant crisis in […]

You need to care deeply about what is happening for her and not so much about what she thinks of you.

November 13, 2014


Answer: Everybody’s Got Something to Hide Except For Me and My Monkey Question: What is the longest Beatles song title? If you’re ever on Jeopardy and that comes up, now you know.  This is my longest blog post title. If you have been reading my blog or my bio, you may already know that a […]