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Your Worth

April 16, 2022

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A frequent challenge in therapy is the client’s view of self.  On one end of the spectrum, we have the narcissist with an inflated view of self.  This is more the exception since narcissists usually don’t spend a lot of time in therapy.  The more common problem is a deep feeling of shame, inadequacy, and […]

Whose Relationship Violations are Worse?

July 17, 2019

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How do you rate the following violations of love and trust in a relationship?  Number the following from 1-12 with 1 being the most egregious betrayal. ____  One night of sex with a stranger. ____  An emotional affair with a coworker. ____  A secret bank account. ____  Not showing up when your partner has a […]

Infidelity Redefined

January 24, 2014

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This week I am in Washington for the final training module for CSAT (certified sexual addiction therapist) certification.  On the first day of this module, Rob Weiss presented on sexual addiction and technology, and how assessment and treatment is impacted by evolving technology and media.  This post is not about that, but about a comment […]

Overcoming Shame

May 10, 2013

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This post is based upon a talk I am presenting this weekend to a group of leaders of Christian sexual addiction recovery support groups.  As such, my Christian view is particularly on display in this one.  My hope is that my readers who are of other faiths or no faith will still be able to […]

The Light and Dark Sides of the Force

November 10, 2012

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Guilt is a very powerful force.  I don’t recommend utilizing it (with the possible exception being if your adult daughter starts eating the guacamole you just made yourself for lunch, hypothetically speaking), but I acknowledge its power.  When my daughters were growing up if the subject of someone making someone else feel guilty came up, […]