Browsing All posts tagged under »therapy«

Your Worth

April 16, 2022


A frequent challenge in therapy is the client’s view of self.  On one end of the spectrum, we have the narcissist with an inflated view of self.  This is more the exception since narcissists usually don’t spend a lot of time in therapy.  The more common problem is a deep feeling of shame, inadequacy, and […]

Should Christians Go To Therapy?

July 24, 2020


Pastor Bryan Stamper offered this short video addressing the question of whether Christians should go to therapy.  I thought it was worth sharing (and didn’t require additional comment from me) so here it is. Blessings.

The Hero

July 2, 2019


I don’t know about you, but I like being the hero in my own stories.  From my experience, most people seem to.  If you think about it, the stories you get wherein the person telling the story was in the right or made the right choice or responded to a situation in a very mature, […]

Expanding Your Thinking About Boundaries

September 30, 2015


A large part of my practice is treating sexual addiction.  No matter what the addiction, an important part of recovery is learning to live with and embrace boundaries.  When active in their addiction, addicts hate boundaries.  Boundaries are your jailer.  They keep you from doing what you most want to do.  A significant milestone in […]

Ashley Madison Take 2

August 29, 2015


The purchase of the island of Manhattan.  The commonly understood history is that in 1626 Dutch colonists purchased the island of Manhattan from the Native Americans for trade goods valued at about 60 Dutch guilders.[1]  That amount would have purchased about 1 ½ pounds of silver at the time.  Though the natives’ understanding of the […]

Resolution Time?

January 1, 2015


“The tension is here between who you are and who you could be, between how it is and how it should be.”  Jon Foreman (Dare You To Move) “And it gets harder as you get older.” Stephen Stills (See the Changes) “One day you’ll wake up in the present day, a million generations removed from […]

Your Part

October 3, 2014


There are people in your life who’ve come and gone.  They let you down.  I know they hurt your pride.  You gotta put it all behind, Darling, ‘cause life goes on.  You keep carrying that anger, it will eat you up inside.  Don Henley, The Heart of the Matter My wife and I went to […]

Making The Call

September 20, 2014


The major chains in the fitness industry have an interesting business model.  To keep their product affordable requires that a reasonable percentage of their customers pay for the service and never use it.  I am always grateful to those who sign up and don’t come.  It keeps my dues down.  I am a bad member.  […]

Licensed at Last

August 14, 2014


Lately it occurs to me what a long strange tip it’s been.  Grateful Dead Life is for the learning.  Joni Mitchell Well, the State of California has now seen fit to license me as a marriage and family therapist.  In honor of the milestone, my supervisor provided me with a magic wand signifying, that as […]

Talking to Yourself About Your Partner

April 24, 2014


Distressed couples commonly find their relationships besieged by negative cycles of interaction that leave both partners feeling hurt, isolated, and misunderstood.  The tendency when this happens is to see your partner as the source and cause of your pain.  In the middle of the distress it is difficult to recognize that each of you and […]