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Gorillas? Really?

January 9, 2014


Some say that no one writes tender romantic love songs anymore.  I have to disagree.  As a case in point take the poignant lyric to Bruno Mars’ recent hit “Gorilla.”  What could be more romantic than the promise of “you and me, baby, making love[1] like gorillas” coming from a man with “a body full […]

The 100th Post – You Can Get There From Here…If You Want To

December 5, 2013


If you need me, don’t let go.  I will never give up on you.  Wang Chung The prize is always worth the rocky ride.  Emily Saliers I’ve never lost a game, I just ran out of time.  Michael Jordan We didn’t lose the game; we just ran out of time.  Vince Lombardi Whatever happened to […]

Getting Over It

September 19, 2013


On Labor Day, I suffered a great personal tragedy.[1]  We had some friends over for a barbecue.  My ipod and docking speakers were sitting on a small resin table outside providing us with music.  The back door was left open.  The wind blew the back door which knocked over the table which caused my ipod […]

See Alice

August 22, 2013


[1]Since the invention of the DVR, the only place I actually see TV commercials is when I am on the elliptical in the gym.  (At home I just fast forward through them.)  Consequently, there are commercials I have seen dozens of times and never heard the audio.  It is sometimes interesting to note what moves […]

Your Elected Officials

August 1, 2013


What a great week for taking a look at sexual addiction criteria.  Let me start by saying that some of these elected officials have denied the behaviors of which they stand accused.  In those cases, we would have to say that their activities were alleged.  In other situations, the office holders have admitted the facts […]

The 50th Post

December 20, 2012


As the title implies, this is my 50th post and probably my last one for 2012 (I will pick it back up after New Year’s).  To those of you who have been reading my stuff all year, thanks for enduring and reading my thoughts every week.  I hope you found some things that were helpful […]

Sexual Addiction Criteria

June 21, 2012


One of the most painful traumas that occurs in marriage is when one (or both) partners is acting out sexually outside of the relationship.  This can take many forms (e.g. pornography, affairs, online relationships, phone sex, prostitutes, etc.).  Often there is a compulsive aspect to the acting out.  Though not all sexual acting out is […]

Grief, Loss, and Trauma

May 12, 2012


Grief can sometimes be complicated by traumatic aspects of the death.  The acronym NASH offers a general outline of how the cause or circumstances of the death add traumatic factors which make working through the tasks of mourning (see last post) more difficult.  In ascending order of propensity to induce trauma are deaths by 1) […]

Grief and Loss: The Tasks of Mourning

May 5, 2012


In every life, there will be times in which one must cope with grief and loss.  Some recent conversations I have had with those who are grieving seemed to warrant a detour from the topic of marital relationships for a discussion of grief and mourning.  There is a sense in which all of our work […]